I am following this gang rape case in India past weeks, actually since it happened and I must say that I had plenty of time to create my own opinions by now, as an outsider of course. I was not keen to talk about this what so ever before, but I don’t know why, today I’m choosing to express my opinion about all this. Maybe it happens because I’m sick and tired to see how this whole thing is treated generally speaking by Indian politics, police and some masses.
I am not going to give lessons of how rape cases should be treated in India, I will only speak from a normal woman point of view, about the safety of a country which I would like to visit soon, thing that unfortunately becomes the issue of safety of the entire society itself as these things happening daily everywhere, not only in India. So here we go.
On December 16th, gang rape of a 23 years old girl happened. She was travelling with her boy friend, in order to reach home, after they saw a movie. What a crime they did right? How could they travel by night (9 pm as far as I understood). Why she was dressed up in a western style, why she got in that bus? These are a few questions police and other leaders asked before asking one important question. Why there is no safety for women, for everyone at any hour of day or night?
Soon mass opinion went on fire, thousands of youths went out in streets demanding justice, which is a very brave action to take and appreciate. But another question raises here: why justice has to be demand? It’s not a right of the modern times, it’s not a common thing we expect from those who pretend to protect us?
On December 29th, the poor girl dies in a hospital in Singapore. Now rapists become murders also and still justice has not been made, they still are questioning in which circumstances this happened, if the girl actually incited them to rape her, to assault and harass her. What about her friend, he also did that? Why they beat him up so badly? Just because they didn’t stand to the criminals hints, it means they should punish them in that way?
Police and political leaders said women should avoid travelling alone in night, but the thing is that she was not alone, those criminals not even gave second thought that her friend might stop them and this is not the only such case happening. My question here is: why police try to make women live a more detention at home life, instead of protecting them as they expect would happen? Why they question their dressing instead of questioning the men’s behavior? What explanation they have for rapes happening in villages, or little girls harassment, are they dressed in an improper way too? What about family involved criminals, or police officers, doctors, teachers, priests, people in which we have trust?? What about girls or women wearing burka, who were also raped? What answer they have for this? But these are questions who many people asked and not received answers yet.
They are thinking to invest money in women drivers for school buses, taxi drivers, more women police officers, proper school uniform for girls, laws banning different behaviors when it comes to women, but they did not give any thought to actually educate men for a zero rape society, they did not thought to change mentality of men officers in police districts, they did not thought to add some specific criteria tests for those who want to work in specific places. They will create division between women and men in the society, but do this division will make a difference, or the actual proper education?
I’m sure that in each case they will anyway find a reason for criminals and a guilt for victims.
I’m not judging India only, nor it’s politics, it’s corruption, because rape is happening in many other places in the world, even in those countries in which reading about this case in India people will appear horrified. This is happening in countries in which women are falsely deceived with their equal status, with their safety. Violence against women, in any particular way exists everywhere, in my motherland Romania, in Italy, the country I live now, in U.S.A, in UK, everywhere, it’s not a consequence of low developed countries, as much as some would like to say. We like it or not, patriarchal based culture seeks here too, more or less. We might live it, or not, it can happen according to the education we received in our families. Depends on how our father treats our mother, our uncle treats our aunty and so on. Depends on what they teach us in schools, depends on friends we will have, entourage etc.
Maybe the difference between these places will be that people don’t appear so horrified all the time, at least not in the active way, they don’t go out on streets and police, yeah with all corruption, many of the times do their job and put charge on rapist/criminals according to the law, without questioning so much the victim. I think it’s about how lucky you are to get born in a place or another, it’s about percentage of safety, because we are not 100% safe anywhere, it’s about laws and about how police act and political leaders treat this matter.
So, what do I blame in the behavior of Indian police and political leaders is exactly this passivity or wrong way indictment, in front of this kind of criminal acts and I’m not talking about the Delhi’s gang rape only, but of all rapes happening daily in whole country, their blindness, towards the actual real reasons of why this happening in India, reasons that have nothing to do with the dressing style, or going out in night, or having a specific behavior, but only with the bad luck of being there in a wrong place at a wrong moment in which some criminals can’t keep their manhood inside. They just have the bad luck of being part of a lower cast, or working for the wrong man, or studying into the wrong class, boarding the wrong bus, reporting their harassment to the wrong police officer, and so on..
I think I would have so many other things to say about this, I have already said too much, though, so I will end up this long opinion with a hope, that people, especially those in charge of things will finally detect the main problems to solve and to pay attention at, so that these kind of atrocities stop everywhere. I hope they will accept that there are things missing and must be adjust soon. I hope they will realize that if men won’t see women as desire only, violence against women in many ways, will stop.
R.I.P. to the gang rape girl along with all those around the world, who died in these circumstances. Also a deep thought for those who didn’t died and have to live their hell made life, more or less.
I will add this link, for a further reading: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/08/opinion/after-being-raped-i-was-wounded-my-honor-wasnt.html?_r=0